Love has no opposite. Hate is not the opposite of love.

Love has no opposite. Hate is not the opposite of love.

Love has no opposite. Love is who we are. We came into this world through love. We were loved as infants for a year or two, before we were taught to survive in this world. Love in our heart is a reality, but for most of us, our heart of love is deeply buried inside us, under wounds we received growing up.

Hate is not the opposite of love. We were taugh to hate. Hate is blaming our pain and suffering on others, or on ourselves. Few of us were taught to take any responsibility for how we feel. We blame and feel righteous anger towards others or ourselves, rather than own, feel, and understand our pain.

The truth of this political world is not taught. We were taught to believe in authorities of religion and nationality, that separate humanity into opposing groups. We were taught we have enemies we should hate. We believe in retribution, we believe in war. We were not taught love, instead we were taught morality, to judge and condemn what disagrees with us. This world continues to be loveless and insane, because of everything we were taught to believe as children.

The truth is all humans are one and the same. I do not have to get to know you, to know that at some point in time, you are a very neat person, and a slob, loving and hateful, sweet and nasty, understanding and reactive; all aspects of humanity are in everyone. Some we embrace and some we deny. When we can accept all of every aspect of who we are, then nothing is right or wrong, or good or bad, moral or immoral; we no longer think in dualistic concepts, we no longer judge and condemn! We have no problem with anyone or ourselves, we no longer feel lonely or suffer any guilt, and we can now love ourselves and everyone unconditionally.

This truth is not taught in any school or university, or by any religion. This truth is denied by most everyone. We deny any truth, until we wake up and embrace it. The truth is, we are all mirrors for each other, because we are one and the same. Those we hate are exactly like us. We deny this truth, because this and any truth disagrees with what we believe. Any truth will confuse us, shock and disturb us, confound us, and disorientate us.

Wars are understandable, once you understand the mind of denial. When we hate anyone or any idea, we refuse observation; we go blind to any possibility we are the same as what we hate. Any aspect of ourselves that we deny, grows in us unconsciously! What we hate about anyone, grows like mushrooms in the dark, in us, in our unconsciousness. This is why those who hate are hypocritical; why hypocrisy is rampant in political and religious leaders.

Many years ago, when my two children were about 8 and 9, I was visiting them on a Sunday; it was my day to hang out with them. They were arguing with each other when I arrived. I asked what this was about and they told me they had a difference of opinion about my daughter’s best girlfriend who lived across the street. I decided to play with them about this, so I asked them, How is this possible, you both are close in age, you grew up together, and you see one person differently? Ignoring this question, I then asked, Barabara, What kind of person do you see when you look at your friend? She answered, A very sweet one. I asked, Do you like to see yourself that way? She answered, Yes. After a few more examples, I turned to Philip and asked him the same question. He angrily answered, Selfish! I then asked him, Do you like yourself when you’re selfish? He answered, I am not selfish!. Barbara hit the floor hysterically laughing and I had to hold in my amusement. I continued to question him about his selfishness, giving him recent examples. He adamantly denied being selfish.

Have you noticed that when any two people hate and are fighting each other, usually the are very similar? This is most likely because they both hate some aspect of themselves, that they observe in or project onto the one they fight. The same happens in so-called love relationships and with countries that go to war. We mirror each other, and until we accept ourselves totally, there will always be conflicts.

I Teach Meditation and Awakening. These subjects work together to heal suffering by waking us to who we truly are. Meditation is about raising our awareness of how we are. Awakening is about learning how to transform what we observe in meditation. The work is simple and difficult at first to understand, because we have been taught so many untruths we must first unlearn. 
Love, 
Nirvan